tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4577187331531947821.post7208123561762744978..comments2023-09-13T02:24:01.154-07:00Comments on Love You, Hate the Porn: How To Get Your Husband or Boyfriend to Stop Watching Porn--9 Things You CAN DoMark Chamberlain, Ph.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/16925212480252675196noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4577187331531947821.post-59954480979005822312016-02-01T19:49:32.064-08:002016-02-01T19:49:32.064-08:00Thanks for sharing your experience everyman. Knowi...Thanks for sharing your experience everyman. Knowing about your healing shows it can be done and inspires hope!Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16925212480252675196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4577187331531947821.post-41781050313558755942016-02-01T19:42:49.302-08:002016-02-01T19:42:49.302-08:00All these points are spot on. Coming from someone...All these points are spot on. Coming from someone who has been healed, compassion and empathy where guilt is not a factor and the comfort of knowing you are still accepted and loved even after the secrecy of the 'other life' is revealed is what helped me the most. Hopefully, other husbands and fathers will read and share their secrets with their wives and their wives will respond in kind.everymanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03456733925334391306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4577187331531947821.post-72101853503386919952016-02-01T17:12:28.656-08:002016-02-01T17:12:28.656-08:00Hi Auntie,
Isn't that an powerful little ani...Hi Auntie, <br /><br />Isn't that an powerful little animation? Every time I watch it I notice a subtle little point I missed before. <br /><br />Thanks for your insights about what a spouse can do. The healing we can do together is so much more powerful than what we can do alone--or when we're working at cross purposes. <br /><br />In a truly healing relationship, support is shared back and forth. For insights about what an addicted husband can do to help his traumatized wife heal (obviously genders could be reversed as well), check out this earlier post: <br /><br />http://markchamberlainphd.blogspot.com/2010/09/letting-her-express-her-pain.html.Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16925212480252675196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4577187331531947821.post-3065505561165949672016-02-01T16:59:45.561-08:002016-02-01T16:59:45.561-08:00I had an a-ha moment when I read your comparison o...I had an a-ha moment when I read your comparison of porn and cocaine, and their reflection on a mate's attractiveness and sexiness.Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12356999520836293573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4577187331531947821.post-56628252352989696152016-02-01T16:38:57.898-08:002016-02-01T16:38:57.898-08:00Excellent information! Too many of my friends have...Excellent information! Too many of my friends have taken it personally and are suffering with poor self worth. It keeps them focused on themselves and their own despair, unable to see clearly how they can lend hope and encouragement to their spouse.<br /><br />In my experience so far, empathy, understanding, and openness are the key to helping a spouse heal from a porn addiction. <br /><br />The Nugget video is on point.<br /><br /><br /><br />Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12356999520836293573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4577187331531947821.post-8634026305267874422016-02-01T10:02:13.389-08:002016-02-01T10:02:13.389-08:00Just say in: Love the balance you refer to here: t...Just say in: Love the balance you refer to here: take it very seriously as an issue that can become an addiction... but don't take it personally! (Easier said than done, of course, but a good reminder.)Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16925212480252675196noreply@blogger.com